A I don’t want you to be worried, but our son has some bad habits now. He says painful words everyday. 我不想讓你擔心，但是我們的兒子現在有些壞習慣了。他每天都說些傷人的話。

B What words? Can you tell me? 什么話?你能告訴我嗎?

A He says kick mommy, beat mommy, don’t want mommy, very quickly if I do something that he doesn’t like. You know, if I wash his face or change his clothes, things like that. 如果我做什么事他不喜歡，他很快就說,踢媽媽、打媽媽，不要媽媽。你知道的，像跟他洗臉或者換衣服之類的事。

B Honey, I don’t know what to tell you. Of course Tony is a young child. But do not underestimate his ability to learn and reason. 親愛的，我不知道該怎么跟你說。當然托尼還是個小孩子。但不要小看他學習、講道理的能力。

A Yes, but sometimes he is just not reasonable. 是啊，但是有時候他就是很不講理。

B I suggest you treat him with patience, affection, and respect. If he needs to do something, like go to bed, or be washed, etc., please guide or help him to get it done, but lead him with gentleness. 我建議你多點耐心，愛他，尊重他。如果他需要上床睡覺、或者被清洗之類的，請指引或者幫助他完成，但是一定要溫柔。

A It’s easy to say, but I will try. 說來很容易，但是我還是會盡量去做。

B Motivate Tony to cooperate by rewarding his good behavior. Do not emphasize punishment for bad moods, etc. Do not threaten him with punishment if he resists the actions you desire. 要和托尼合作好，你就要獎勵他給他積極性。不要因為壞脾氣就強調要懲罰他。不要因為他不按照你的做就威脅要懲罰他。

A I know my parents sometimes threaten to punish him. But this doesn’t work, instead he picks up another bad habit. 我知道我的父母有時候就威脅要懲罰他。但是這不但不管用，反而他又學多了一個壞習慣。